What are signs of emotions

15 signs you have high emotional intelligence

Actually everyone thinks of themselves that they are intelligent. Or at least more intelligent than some of his fellow human beings. Many can confirm this with an IQ test. But a high IQ is not everything. What about your emotional intelligence (also EQ)?

A high EQ is more important than ever today. Correct communication and good handling of feelings are essential - not only for personal relationships, but also for business ones. But this emotional intelligence is not as easy to measure as the IQ.

Justin Bariso is an expert in this field. He founded his consulting firm "INSIGHT" in 2011 and now helps companies "understand emotions and let them work for you instead of against you." Bariso regularly writes guest articles for news portals, for example for "TIME" and "The Huffington Post." "Or" Yahoo. "In a recent article on Inc, he describes how you can tell if you are emotionally intelligent.

We have summarized his most important points for you here:

You think about your feelings

You can only understand your emotions if you deal with them. That is why it is important to think about them a lot. Anyone who dares to question their own feelings from time to time proves their emotional intelligence.

You ask others about their perspective

Being able to see the world through someone else's eyes is important. Because if you are stuck in your own opinion and only have an egocentric view of things, you cannot empathize with others. It can't hurt to hear what others think about a topic or about you.

You say "thank you"

That little word can make all the difference. It shows that you appreciate it when others do something for you.

You ask yourselves the "why?"

Questioning your own feelings and thoughts is incredibly important. Those who cannot do that cannot expect to be in control of themselves, let alone understand others.

You know when to take a break

First think, then talk. Everyone understands this concept, but very few can implement it. Those who manage to pause for a moment to think again about what they want to say show their emotional intelligence and prove that they are in control - and have no regrets afterwards.

You can handle criticism

This also shows a high level of emotional intelligence. Understand that criticism is not meant to be an insult, but rather to help you improve and learn from your mistakes.

You always take into account how others will react

Here you are also proving that you are not only thinking of yourself, but also of others. Emotional intelligence also means understanding others and paying attention to their feelings - even if these are not your own.

You have a large emotional vocabulary

Being able to think deeply about your feelings is all well and good, but you should also be able to find the right words for them. Then you can explain to others exactly how you feel and why you feel that way.

You can apologize

For many, apologizing is probably even harder than saying “thank you”. Because here you have to be able to admit to yourself that you made a mistake and that others were hurt by your behavior.

You can forgive

Here, too, it is important to see the world from a different perspective. You have to be able to empathize with another person, even if they have hurt you. Because only when you understand the motivations of this person can you forgive.

You can control your thoughts

This can be very difficult under certain circumstances, because subconsciously a thought can come up quickly without you wanting it or you even wander completely into a daydream - for example through a film, music or simply something that you see on the street. Those who can consciously block out unwanted thoughts demonstrate a high level of emotional intelligence.

You analyze your weaknesses

Everyone probably knows their strengths - but most of them prefer to ignore their weaknesses. But if you know your weaknesses, you can work with them and maybe even turn them into strengths.

You don't freeze people at a specific point in time

Prejudice is always bad. Of course, if you fix the entire picture you have of a person to just one particular behavior at one point in time, you have a biased and incomplete picture.

You can sincerely praise someone

You should also show your appreciation and attention with praise. If someone did a really good job and tried very hard for it, you should acknowledge that too.

You know that feelings can be used against you too

When others realize that you are not in control of your own feelings, they can of course use that against you and manipulate or provoke you.